Hell, even when I was in HS we used it all the time. Both towards whites and blacks. I know this sounds idiotic and it even sounds idiotic to me but, for some reason there is a huge difference between the words "nigger" and "nigga". You put the "er" on there and you might get beat even you are friends with the guy. Again, its idiotic but true. Context is a big issue as well. If you say, "Hey, what's up my nigga" it seems to be OK. Now, if you take out the "my" and add "er" you may be stabbed. Words change and lose meaning with the passing of generations. How many of you on here would go out and tell your buddies, "Damn man, I'm feeling really gay today"? Hopefully not a lot of you. I'm fine with the word and use it daily. In saying that, I'm not sure what school your kids go to or who you are letting them hang out with but you may want to watch whom they are hanging out with if they are slinging words like that around. I've asked my son "What color was he?" and he he doesn't even feel comfortable saying "he was black". Y'all must be in the rough area s of Paulding.