mei lan
Pursuit Driver
OK, I just experienced the most tackpot thing I've seen in a very long time. GAH!!! Got an invite to a baby shower for a third cousin of mine. Which made me grind my teeth because:
a) The shower is being given by her immediate family. Any etiquette expert will tell you that having family host a shower just isn't done because it looks like you are begging for gifts, which is tacky. Now, I can see family hosting showers on occasions where a person might not have a lot of friends and be in dire straits, or whatever, and this really is the minor point in my objection, but in general, I find it to be very tacky.
2) This girl pulls in $125-$150K/year, easy, and with her husband's income, I'm sure they're bringing in over $200K/year. Many/most of the people being invited to said shower are lower income (and some are completely impoverished but will go and bring a gift because it's expected of them). I find this to be tacky in the EXTREME. TACKY, TACKY, TACKY!!! I think it's the height of arrogance and greed to agree to a shower in such a situation. (It's not a surprise shower, btw.) It would be the same if I got married...I've been on my own lo, these many years, and would NEVER agree to someone giving me a bridal shower! I have everything I need, and if I don't, I buy it. How tacky would a bridal shower be?!?!? Now, if somebody wanted to throw a party and everyone write down their advice for a happy marriage, fine. That would be great. But gifts? No way!!!
c) This girl is having a baby girl. She has a little girl who is three. She ALREADY HAS (or should have) everything she would need for a baby girl!!! If she gave everything away, or sold it in a yard sale, tough nuggies.
I just cannot get over this. I am absolutely appalled, and I refuse to attend. My mother will go, because she's the consummate Southern lady. But I refuse. :spittowardsgroundlikeanitalian:
a) The shower is being given by her immediate family. Any etiquette expert will tell you that having family host a shower just isn't done because it looks like you are begging for gifts, which is tacky. Now, I can see family hosting showers on occasions where a person might not have a lot of friends and be in dire straits, or whatever, and this really is the minor point in my objection, but in general, I find it to be very tacky.
2) This girl pulls in $125-$150K/year, easy, and with her husband's income, I'm sure they're bringing in over $200K/year. Many/most of the people being invited to said shower are lower income (and some are completely impoverished but will go and bring a gift because it's expected of them). I find this to be tacky in the EXTREME. TACKY, TACKY, TACKY!!! I think it's the height of arrogance and greed to agree to a shower in such a situation. (It's not a surprise shower, btw.) It would be the same if I got married...I've been on my own lo, these many years, and would NEVER agree to someone giving me a bridal shower! I have everything I need, and if I don't, I buy it. How tacky would a bridal shower be?!?!? Now, if somebody wanted to throw a party and everyone write down their advice for a happy marriage, fine. That would be great. But gifts? No way!!!
c) This girl is having a baby girl. She has a little girl who is three. She ALREADY HAS (or should have) everything she would need for a baby girl!!! If she gave everything away, or sold it in a yard sale, tough nuggies.
I just cannot get over this. I am absolutely appalled, and I refuse to attend. My mother will go, because she's the consummate Southern lady. But I refuse. :spittowardsgroundlikeanitalian: