Do you punish

[ShoeDiva]

my momma called me the other day because I turn things upside down all the time and she tries to catch me. Well I havent been to her house in MONTHS but just friday she found something and called me to fuss

I laughed!

:spitchick

 

[Blazing Saddles]

Re: Re: Re: Do you punish

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

I have two children from a previous marriage that came over every other week. Unfortunately, this happened a lot.

 

[Sadie612]

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

I have two children from a previous marriage that came over every other week. Unfortunately, this happened a lot.

i did not know this..

 

[deewee]

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

I have two children from a previous marriage that came over every other week. Unfortunately, this happened a lot.

Same here. Then we also get the mom calling "so and so is on restriction for...and can y'all continue the restriction at your house this weekend?" Then when we have to do a restriction & ask the same from her we get "what happens at your house, stays at your house". :BH

 

[ShoeDiva]

Re: Re: Re: Do you punish

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

I have two children from a previous marriage that came over every other week. Unfortunately, this happened a lot.

Okay. I can understand that with you being outside of the daily thing. I didn't think about families that have to split time. I can see where it could happen.

(This was not the case in this situation)

 

[ShoeDiva]

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

I have two children from a previous marriage that came over every other week. Unfortunately, this happened a lot.

Same here. Then we also get the mom calling "so and so is on restriction for...and can y'all continue the restriction at your house this weekend?" Then when we have to do a restriction & ask the same from her we get "what happens at your house, stays at your house". :BH

Okay to repeat my word for the day..that is insane. You have to do it, but she does not? :huh

 

[deewee]

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

I have two children from a previous marriage that came over every other week. Unfortunately, this happened a lot.

Same here. Then we also get the mom calling "so and so is on restriction for...and can y'all continue the restriction at your house this weekend?" Then when we have to do a restriction & ask the same from her we get "what happens at your house, stays at your house". :BH

Okay to repeat my word for the day..that is insane. You have to do it, but she does not? :huh

Not according to her. Her words..."They're my damn kids & I'll do what I want with them.". And we've heard this on more than one occasion.

Plus by not continuing a restriction we place, she gets to be the good guy, us the bad guys. They are taught constantly, via many many means, that their dad is inconsequential in their lives.

 

[I'm Floored]

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

Are you questioning our parenting style?

 

[LisaC]

The princess either is punished immediately or is told that we need to discuss her punishment and will talk to her later. But "later" is the same day (and generally within an hour).

 

[Blazing Saddles]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Do you punish

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

I have two children from a previous marriage that came over every other week. Unfortunately, this happened a lot.

Okay. I can understand that with you being outside of the daily thing. I didn't think about families that have to split time. I can see where it could happen.

(This was not the case in this situation)

Unfortunately, there are a lot of things you have to do different when kids are going from home to home. Wasn't my preference but I played the cards I was dealt.

 

[ShoeDiva]

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

Are you questioning our parenting style?

No I am not. I said if that works for you. I also said I agreed when BS stated it needed to be like that with the kids coming.

 

[ShoeDiva]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Do you punish

Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Sure you do. Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup

no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.

Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........

I have two children from a previous marriage that came over every other week. Unfortunately, this happened a lot.

Okay. I can understand that with you being outside of the daily thing. I didn't think about families that have to split time. I can see where it could happen.

(This was not the case in this situation)

Unfortunately, there are a lot of things you have to do different when kids are going from home to home. Wasn't my preference but I played the cards I was dealt.

I understand. I am sorry it has to be like that.

 

[I'm Floored]

The princess either is punished immediately or is told that we need to discuss her punishment and will talk to her later. But "later" is the same day (and generally within an hour).

Your daughter is young. Often, as they age, there are a lot of issues to consider and discuss.

And when we tell them we're going to discuss it and let them know later what their punishment will be, we have remarkably behaved children.

:whistle

 

[ShoeDiva]

The princess either is punished immediately or is told that we need to discuss her punishment and will talk to her later. But "later" is the same day (and generally within an hour).

That is how I have always done it, as with most of my friends. This is not a real friend so I was just floored by them doing that.

 

[ShoeDiva]

The princess either is punished immediately or is told that we need to discuss her punishment and will talk to her later. But "later" is the same day (and generally within an hour).

Your daughter is young. Often, as they age, there are a lot of issues to consider and discuss.

And when we tell them we're going to discuss it and let them know later what their punishment will be, we have remarkably behaved children.

:whistle

P.S. to your last question of me....I totally agree with the "we're going to discuss it and let them know later what their punishment will be" and that they will be remarkably well behaved waiting. )

 

[Sadie612]

enough about me.. what about you

oh wait..you want more me..really k, here goes

I stopped by to see my sweet Granny and poo-paw the other day and I wrote an I love you note in the pollen on the porch. My poo-paw thought my granny was being sweet... she called me and I laughed..she laughed too

 

[ShoeDiva]

enough about me.. what about you

oh wait..you want more me..really k, here goes

I stopped by to see my sweet Granny and poo-paw the other day and I wrote an I love you note in the pollen on the porch. My poo-paw thought my granny was being sweet... she called me and I laughed..she laughed too

) We have not had a poo-paw story in ages!

 

[I'm Floored]

The princess either is punished immediately or is told that we need to discuss her punishment and will talk to her later. But "later" is the same day (and generally within an hour).

...so I was just floored...

Hey! I'M Floored!

:laugh

 

[J-man]

Nope, I was always proactive so I punished them BEFORE it happened. That way they know immediately why they got their butts whooped the week before. "Dang, Dad sure is a smart guy, he knew I was going to the that before I did."

 

[LisaC]

enough about me.. what about you

oh wait..you want more me..really k, here goes

I stopped by to see my sweet Granny and poo-paw the other day and I wrote an I love you note in the pollen on the porch. My poo-paw thought my granny was being sweet... she called me and I laughed..she laughed too

How is poo paw these days?