Do you punish

ShoeDiva

ShoeDiva

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your kids days AFTER it happens? Just wondering. I personally think anyone that does that is insane, but what do I know. So I am asking you. You knew they did it, you saw it happen, and days later you decide to say something. I think if they want to make a point or teach a lesson they should do it then. After the fact makes not a bit of sense to me. What say you?
 
lotstodo said:
You obviously have a specific incident in mind.
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Sure, but I do not want to share someones personal business. In general though, do you not find that a bit odd? Not a very good learning or teaching moment to get bent out of shape and punish a child days after an incident, is it?
 
My husband's dog peed on the floor last week. I'm going to go beat his butt now ... I'll be right back.
 
Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.

Kids will often go run and tell their friends how horrible and crazy their parents are but in the long run, it is for the best. If you let kids get away with it, they'll think they can do whatever they want.
 
ShoeDiva said:
lotstodo said:
You obviously have a specific incident in mind.
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Sure, but I do not want to share someones personal business. In general though, do you not find that a bit odd? Not a very good learning or teaching moment to get bent out of shape and punish a child days after an incident, is it?
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I couldn't say yes or no without knowing more about the incident. I can imagine there being mitigating circumstances, none or all of which may apply. It would be pure speculation.
 
Blazing Saddles said:
Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.
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Sure you do. ;) Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup
 
I can understand if its a situation both parents need to discuss first, but usually the child already knows they're in big T for something, and the parents are deciding on a suitable punishment. I guess it also depends on the age of the child too. At a young age, a quick pop on the tushy doesn't require discussion. But an older aged child needs different forms of punishment, which sometimes means the parents need to discuss first. Still, the child usually already knows they're in trouble and suitable punishment is being discussed first.
 
When my children were little, absolutely not. Discipline was effective when doled out immediately.

As they get older, sometimes it's necessary. Often, my husband and I have to discuss issues and make our decisions based on looking at it from every angle. I certainly would rather wait to address the issue after needed thought and reflection than to act out of anger or other emotion.

Depending on the incident, it may be the BEST way to handle it, and not at all "insane."

JMHO.
 
And I'm pretty sure the kids will eventually do something wrong again so I'm going to go beat them now, too.
 
This one time at band camp... oh wait...

If I knew about it and did nothing then NO

if I just found out about it..let me fuss for an hour then ground you lol
 
deewee said:
I can understand if its a situation both parents need to discuss first, but usually the child already knows they're in big T for something, and the parents are deciding on a suitable punishment. I guess it also depends on the age of the child too. At a young age, a quick pop on the tushy doesn't require discussion. But an older aged child needs different forms of punishment, which sometimes means the parents need to discuss first. Still, the child usually already knows they're in trouble and suitable punishment is being discussed first.
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I can totally agree with that.
 
I'm Floored said:
When my children were little, absolutely not. Discipline was effective when doled out immediately.

As they get older, sometimes it's necessary. Often, my husband and I have to discuss issues and make our decisions based on looking at it from every angle. I certainly would rather wait to address the issue after needed thought and reflection than to act out of anger or other emotion.

Depending on the incident, it may be the BEST way to handle it, and not at all "insane."

JMHO.
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My opinion is still insane, if they did not know they were in trouble. If they did and you and BS had to discuss the issue that DOES makes sense. Otherwise I see it as a bit nuts and not helpful to the child. Again my opinion.
 
Sadie612 said:
This one time at band camp... oh wait...

If I knew about it and did nothing then NO

if I just found out about it..let me fuss for an hour then ground you lol
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That is what I think too. :thumbsup
 
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ShoeDiva said:
Blazing Saddles said:
Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.
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Sure you do. ;) Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup
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no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.
 
unionmom said:
And I'm pretty sure the kids will eventually do something wrong again so I'm going to go beat them now, too.
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:))

I had a coach in high school that said he got spanked every morning cuz his patents knew he'd need that spanking before bedtime. :D
 
my momma called me the other day because I turn things upside down all the time and she tries to catch me. Well I havent been to her house in MONTHS but just friday she found something and called me to fuss

I laughed!
 
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Blazing Saddles said:
ShoeDiva said:
Blazing Saddles said:
Absolutely. I know my kids will whine about it because they thought they got away with something but after I explain to them that sometimes adults needed to think about punishment for children, they understand.
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Sure you do. ;) Really you wait? You do not tell them there will be punishment and you will let them know? You just let it happen and days later give them a punishment? Okay it that works for you. :thumbsup
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no, usually they are warned for the behavior. They knew they did something wrong. Sometimes I punish immediately but other times, I let them wonder. The wait can be punishment in itself.
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Hmmm, interesting. Punishment by not knowing you are going to be punished. Again, if that works for you........
 
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