MrsAlmostSmith
Driver In Training
JMT said:It is very simple. "Spiritual but not religious" typically means that they perceive themselves as being moral enough to make judgments about others, but they probably reject the existence of any absolute moral standard and ultimately consider themselves exempt from having their own conduct subjected to judgment by others, including the God they have visualized as existing minus the hard parts. Generally speaking, any spiritual concept or characteristic they see in others that they wish to disagree with is dismissed as "religious" and/or "judgmental."
That's my experience in a nutshell.
That is all.
I kinda take offense to this, actually, and appreciate BBG's defense (even if a bit harsh :taunt ). I don't judge others..often. We're all guilty at some point, but I'm the first person to say 'to each his own'. This includes people who have affairs, have nine wives, or some of the things us Americans would define as 'crazy' in other cultures and religions. I'm going to school for religions and culture studies, and I have a wide open mind when it comes to other people, their beliefs, and their choices. It doesn't effect me...why should I care?
As a Buddhist, we have rules. Lots and lots of them, actually. I was Christian for 20 years and, even while following God's rules, I found Christianity to be much easier than Buddhism. As a Christian, I had rules, and I had grace and forgiveness. As a Buddhist, I have zero grace or forgiveness (that bad karma just keeps on piling up...no such thing as asking for forgiveness), and I have more rules. The Bible says to honor thy mother and thy father, but Buddhism wants you to learn from them, honor them, and not get attached. Talk about near impossible. Rules, rules, rules...and then no wanting, no attachment, no desire. The list of morals and values are near the equivalent of several religions put together, plus some.
The only difference I see, really, between me being a Buddhist and me being a Christian (which, for me, is the basis of me being spiritual and me being religious), is that I've finally admitted that I do not have faith in God. I just don't believe he exists. I can't force myself to believe, I spent years praying that I would believe, and I just couldn't pretend anymore. I still have high morals and values, I still don't judge others, I just don't claim to (or actually) believe in a god-figure, therefore I do not claim to be 'religious', as society generally views religions as having a (or many) god(s).