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Foxmeister
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My brother really pissed me off yesterday. Anyone friends with me on FB know exactly what I'm talking about. He started by sending me a personal message out of concern about my relationship with the gf. For some reason, he had it in his head that she and I would probably be getting married while I'm home on vacation. He's never asked me anything about her. I told him I appreciated his concern, but there wasn't anything for him to worry about because that isn't in the plans at all.
Later I get a personal note from someone else about another personal matter that was none of their business. I then posted on my wall how I disliked and wished people would just butt out of other people's personal business. My brother who has a superiority complex, took this as a personal insult and then began to discuss my personal life on my Facebook page. He then sends my gf a scathing email insulting her and then telling her if she really knew me, she would definitely rethink ever having a relationship of any kind with me.
What makes it worse is my youngest sister (who I always felt very close to) joins in. She later deletes her posts and then sends my gf a private message apologizing and saying "we only want Gary to be careful and happy."
Now my gf thinks my family dislikes her without ever having met her or any other interaction with her at all. I certainly understand how she feels. My sister sends me an apology, but then says as Christians we are to hold each other accountable. I wrote her back to remind her that in Matthew, it says to confront a brother (Christian) in private.
To make matters worse; my daughter now doesn't want me to bring my girlfriend with me to MI. It was fine with her a week ago. My brother made reference in the private message I referred earlier to about how hard it will be on my daughter and grandchildren if I bring my gf. Now my daughter is saying the same thing my brother said. It wouldn't surprise me at all if he felt in his "infinite wisdom" he called my daughter to have this conversation with her in his quest to save me from myself.
Not once has he ever asked me anything about my relationship with my gf. Instead he jumps to a conclusion and runs with it. This whole situation puts me between a rock and hard spot. I made and paid for our flight and hotel reservations to MI two weeks ago. As I see it, I have two choices; but either choice I make is going to hurt peoples feelings. I wouldn't have to make this decision if my brother hadn't put his nose into my business. I really was looking forward to this vacation. It was supposed to be relaxing and a lot of fun. So far, it's turning into anything but. It just makes me want to kick my brother's ass.
What the heck would you guys do?
Later I get a personal note from someone else about another personal matter that was none of their business. I then posted on my wall how I disliked and wished people would just butt out of other people's personal business. My brother who has a superiority complex, took this as a personal insult and then began to discuss my personal life on my Facebook page. He then sends my gf a scathing email insulting her and then telling her if she really knew me, she would definitely rethink ever having a relationship of any kind with me.
What makes it worse is my youngest sister (who I always felt very close to) joins in. She later deletes her posts and then sends my gf a private message apologizing and saying "we only want Gary to be careful and happy."
Now my gf thinks my family dislikes her without ever having met her or any other interaction with her at all. I certainly understand how she feels. My sister sends me an apology, but then says as Christians we are to hold each other accountable. I wrote her back to remind her that in Matthew, it says to confront a brother (Christian) in private.
To make matters worse; my daughter now doesn't want me to bring my girlfriend with me to MI. It was fine with her a week ago. My brother made reference in the private message I referred earlier to about how hard it will be on my daughter and grandchildren if I bring my gf. Now my daughter is saying the same thing my brother said. It wouldn't surprise me at all if he felt in his "infinite wisdom" he called my daughter to have this conversation with her in his quest to save me from myself.
Not once has he ever asked me anything about my relationship with my gf. Instead he jumps to a conclusion and runs with it. This whole situation puts me between a rock and hard spot. I made and paid for our flight and hotel reservations to MI two weeks ago. As I see it, I have two choices; but either choice I make is going to hurt peoples feelings. I wouldn't have to make this decision if my brother hadn't put his nose into my business. I really was looking forward to this vacation. It was supposed to be relaxing and a lot of fun. So far, it's turning into anything but. It just makes me want to kick my brother's ass.
What the heck would you guys do?