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J-man

J-man

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DIVORCE!!!

Got a phone call this morning informing me that someone I know is evidently getting a divorce. Apparently the wife had the husband served over the weekend which was quiet shocking to him. He is just distraught over having to inform their daughter (his stepdaughter) tonight. I don't really know them well, or at least not personally well, but I feel so badly for all of involved.

That is all, thanks for letting me vent.
 
J-man said:
DIVORCE!!!

Got a phone call this morning informing me that someone I know is evidently getting a divorce. Apparently the wife had the husband served over the weekend which was quiet shocking to him. He is just distraught over having to inform their daughter (his stepdaughter) tonight. I don't really know them well, or at least not personally well, but I feel so badly for all of involved.

That is all, thanks for letting me vent.
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Me too, unfortunately too many people think marriage is like that stuff made in China, if it breaks throw it away and get a new one. Sorry about your friend. :hug
 
I have a sister-in-law in the process and when we first learned about it a month ago, it drug everyone into the dumps SO bad I wanted to go punch my BIL right in the mouth.

I know the kids are hurt the worst, but it affects the entire immediate family. :Stick
 
Yes, too many people think marriage is like owning a car...when you get tired of the one you have, just trade it in for another.

I still maintain that most people get married for the wrong reasons.
 
Guard Dad said:
Yes, too many people think marriage is like owning a car...when you get tired of the one you have, just trade it in for another.

I still maintain that most people get married for the wrong reasons.
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That is just wrong!
It is when it gets too many miles on it, then you trade her in for a newer model.
:)
 
stradial said:
Guard Dad said:
Yes, too many people think marriage is like owning a car...when you get tired of the one you have, just trade it in for another.

I still maintain that most people get married for the wrong reasons.
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That is just wrong!
It is when it gets too many miles on it, then you trade her in for a newer model.
:)
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You can always send her to that new doctor in Hiram and have her rebuilt
 
In March will be 20 years for me and my Hunkie.... Has there been times I have not liked him much, SUre! But I have always loved him.

We just work through things..however he wants to talk about it and I just want him to hush and leave me alone... I am the type of person who just needs time and I will get over it and be happy go lucky again.

He told someone the other day that I keep life interesting for him
 
OK, first of all - this dilbert woman didn't even have the gumption to tell her own daughter and is letting the stepfather do it?!?!? What a skeeze!

Second of all,

Grey Colson said:
I have a sister-in-law in the process and when we first learned about it a month ago, it drug everyone into the dumps SO bad I wanted to go punch my BIL right in the mouth.

I know the kids are hurt the worst, but it affects the entire immediate family. :Stick
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I could not agree more. My sister/BIL's divorce wrought havoc on our family in ways I can't even describe. Even now, five years later, we still experience periodic aftershocks.

Divorce is not just going your separate ways, even if there are no children involved. I heard Andy Stanley once use the illustration of red water and blue water...mix them up and you get purple water. Well, if you want to separate them back again, too bad...'cause you still have purple water. I think of it like wood glue holding wood together. Wood glue done properly is such a strong bond that you will tear the pieces of wood up trying to separate them. THAT is what divorce does. And as Colson said, it affects every member of the family and even friends.

I hate people.
 
Hubby and I celebrated 23 years yesterday and like Sadie said, there have been MANY times I didn't like him very much but I have never stopped loving him. We have our ups and downs like any married couple, but we both believe that the vows are to be taken seriously and giving up is just not an option.

I hope the daughter in this marriage you talked about Jman takes it as well as can be expected. Kids always suffer way more than the adults.
 
I am so glad to hear I am not the only one who gets upset with their hubby and thinks, "I do not like him very much right now." :)) We have been married 21 years and I love him more now than I did when we got married. We have only grew stronger. Vows are something to be taken very seriously and not thrown away at a whelm.
 
People have been lied to for years by therapists. "Kids are resilient". If I hear that one more time (and I know I will) I just may lose it.
 
Madea said:
People have been lied to for years by therapists. "Kids are resilient". If I hear that one more time (and I know I will) I just may lose it.
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Don't even get me started. :BH :BH :BH
 
mei lan said:
Madea said:
People have been lied to for years by therapists. "Kids are resilient". If I hear that one more time (and I know I will) I just may lose it.
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Don't even get me started. :BH :BH :BH
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I agree. There are ALWAYS scars. I'll be praying for them. :(
 
In all seriousness....

Rare is the marriage that doesn't go through rough times. Lord knows mine did, and I seriously considered walking on several occasions.

But my belief system, and a daughter whom I loved so much made me stick it out and find solutions for what was wrong. And we did find solutions, and we have a wonderful relationship because of it.

If...IF there was genuine love there to begin with, there is probably a fix for what is wrong if both parties want it. That is the key; both must want to fix it. Sadly, they too often don't.
 
Takes two (more if you include the Almighty) to make a marriage work.

Only takes one (or the lack of one) to break it.
 
Madea said:
People have been lied to for years by therapists. "Kids are resilient". If I hear that one more time (and I know I will) I just may lose it.
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The hubby used to travel a lot before the princess was born and he deliberately cut back on it after she was born. It turns out that it was for a good reason - it affects her. If he goes out of town for more than one night, it affects her sleep, her mood, her behavior, her appetite, everything. And this happened when she was a baby and it still happens now that she's 6. I cannot even imagine what it would do to her if she had to deal with more.
 
mei lan said:
OK, first of all - this dilbert woman didn't even have the gumption to tell her own daughter and is letting the stepfather do it?!?!? What a skeeze!

Second of all,

Grey Colson said:
I have a sister-in-law in the process and when we first learned about it a month ago, it drug everyone into the dumps SO bad I wanted to go punch my BIL right in the mouth.

I know the kids are hurt the worst, but it affects the entire immediate family. :Stick
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I could not agree more. My sister/BIL's divorce wrought havoc on our family in ways I can't even describe. Even now, five years later, we still experience periodic aftershocks.

Divorce is not just going your separate ways, even if there are no children involved. I heard Andy Stanley once use the illustration of red water and blue water...mix them up and you get purple water. Well, if you want to separate them back again, too bad...'cause you still have purple water. I think of it like wood glue holding wood together. Wood glue done properly is such a strong bond that you will tear the pieces of wood up trying to separate them. THAT is what divorce does. And as Colson said, it affects every member of the family and even friends.

I hate people.
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Mrs. Colson and I were talking shortly after finding out about SIL and BIL's pending divorce. It is like a death in the family. I know these things are going to happen and I don't fault everyone who has been through the big 'D', but now that I'm seeing one up close and personal, I HATE what it does to everyone around it. :'(
 
Grey Colson said:
Mrs. Colson and I were talking shortly after finding out about SIL and BIL's pending divorce. It is like a death in the family. I know these things are going to happen and I don't fault everyone who has been through the big 'D', but now that I'm seeing one up close and personal, I HATE what it does to everyone around it. :'(
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The loss of my BIL was a huge grief...he was a member of the family!!! And my grief over losing him (as if in death, as you say) was complicated by my anger and grief over his part in the events that led to what happened. Took me a LONG time to get past all that. And I do still grieve the loss of him to our family. :'(
 
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