3 Reasons Not to Marry

[ShoeDiva]

I agree with you all, but in fairness to Winchester, that has stated he is not married and just committed, can you tell us why that piece of paper showing your commitment to your other half is not important? I just wonder when you can do it (and act married) why you don't. :dunno Is it against the religious aspect? You two have no kids? (I do not know if you do or not)
***You do not have to answer if you are not comfortable doing so.

Personal choice, mostly hers. No kids together but she has 3 from a previous marriage, which ended badly. Without getting too personal on this, it was never a priority for either of us but something we've been working towards for a long time.

Financial issues have also kept us from "tying the knot". But when it happens, we'll do it OUR way and not how others want us to. Most likely at the J.P.'s office and an expensive honeymoon/vacation, when we can afford to.

It has absolutely no effect how we feel about each other and we are both fully 100% committed .....or we would not have been together so long! Heck, we've been together longer then most people we know who were married! Marriage is a state of mind, not a piece of paper and a bunch of photos. Marriage is a private agreement between two people who love each other and we feel that it should stay private. Marriage is a way of living with another person. Marriage is not about a big party and spending lots of money on other people!



Does that make sense or does it sound too hippy like? lol

Hee hee..you darn hippy! :jk

It does sound as though you are very committed in your own way and I agree with it does not have to be a big party, lots of money, or even making the commitment in front of an audience.

I agree with UM on giving you credit for staying with someone that long! You are right on the many that married and have not been together as long as you due to they are now divorced.

In my perfect little world people fall in love, get married, have kids, stay together forever. Unfortunately that is not a reality for many and while I know some of the choices would not be for me I do respect others that make their choices work.

 

[deewee]

I agree with you all, but in fairness to Winchester, that has stated he is not married and just committed, can you tell us why that piece of paper showing your commitment to your other half is not important? I just wonder when you can do it (and act married) why you don't. :dunno Is it against the religious aspect? You two have no kids? (I do not know if you do or not)
***You do not have to answer if you are not comfortable doing so.

Personal choice, mostly hers. No kids together but she has 3 from a previous marriage, which ended badly. Without getting too personal on this, it was never a priority for either of us but something we've been working towards for a long time.

Financial issues have also kept us from "tying the knot". But when it happens, we'll do it OUR way and not how others want us to. Most likely at the J.P.'s office and an expensive honeymoon/vacation, when we can afford to.

It has absolutely no effect how we feel about each other and we are both fully 100% committed .....or we would not have been together so long! Heck, we've been together longer then most people we know who were married! Marriage is a state of mind, not a piece of paper and a bunch of photos. Marriage is a private agreement between two people who love each other and we feel that it should stay private. Marriage is a way of living with another person. Marriage is not about a big party and spending lots of money on other people!



Does that make sense or does it sound too hippy like? lol

I never had a wedding. Got married by the JOP. I have a strange phobia about wedding dresses.

 

[Winchester]

It was never our choice to wait so long, but sometimes life has different plans for you. Trust me, we have had out "married issues" like everyone else. And yes it would have been easy to walk away...legally.

It works for us and we are happy. We share everything, good and bad. And when "life" lets us take the next step, no problems....everything else is done.