Have you ever been let down by a group of people??

naturegirl

naturegirl

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I had an experience today involving volunteers that has never happened before. Do people actually believe things "just happen"? A lot of hard work went in to a project by one lone volunteer and no one was there to help him. I'm disappointed, angry and in complete shock. How did this happen??
 
naturegirl said:
I had an experience today involving volunteers that has never happened before. Do people actually believe things "just happen"? A lot of hard work went in to a project by one lone volunteer and no one was there to help him. I'm disappointed, angry and in complete shock. How did this happen??
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Oh, I don't know someone else will help. But, sometimes people surprise you. I wasn't sure we would have enough parents to help today, but wow the parents stepped up, and so did our Varsity, and middle school boys.
 
I have been let down by groups of people many times. Ones that say one thing and do another, ones that promise to do things and don't, and it goes on. Sad. No matter how many times it happens I still get hurt, mad, angry, and disappointed. I always hope and believe in the best of people and I unfortunately see the opposite in many situations. :(
 
It happened to me more than once. Heck one year you even raced off to get the entry fee in at the last minute :love.
 
I think most people are oblivious to the amount of work that is needed for anything to happen.

It is disappointing, but I think very few people have what it takes anymore.

:(
 
Whenever you stick your neck out, there is always someone waiting and more than willing to try and cut it off. :'(
 
naturegirl said:
I had an experience today involving volunteers that has never happened before. Do people actually believe things "just happen"? A lot of hard work went in to a project by one lone volunteer and no one was there to help him. I'm disappointed, angry and in complete shock. How did this happen??
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I've found that you must hold peoples hand to make sure they show up. One of the reasons I stopped being the "Chair" or the “head person”... I don't do hand holding very well.

If you are an adult, you are told the date and time... it is not my responsibility to call you every other day the week before we are to meet so you remember. Get a calendar- and get your life in order. :Stick


Harsh... yeah, but it bugs me when I tell someone I will be there, and they call me to ask if I still plan on being there. :dunno Unless you changed the date or time I will be there as planned!

Personal responsibility has become hard to find. I try really hard to have balance in my life and not over schedule commitments. Too many people try to do so much that they accomplish nothing, are always stressed out, and become unreliable.
 
Far West said:
naturegirl said:
I had an experience today involving volunteers that has never happened before. Do people actually believe things "just happen"? A lot of hard work went in to a project by one lone volunteer and no one was there to help him. I'm disappointed, angry and in complete shock. How did this happen??
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I've found that you must hold peoples hand to make sure they show up. One of the reasons I stopped being the "Chair" or the “head person”... I don't do hand holding very well.

If you are an adult, you are told the date and time... it is not my responsibility to call you every other day the week before we are to meet so you remember. Get a calendar- and get your life in order. :Stick


Harsh... yeah, but it bugs me when I tell someone I will be there, and they call me to ask if I still plan on being there. :dunno Unless you changed the date or time I will be there as planned!

Personal responsibility has become hard to find. I try really hard to have balance in my life and not over schedule commitments. Too many people try to do so much that they accomplish nothing, are always stressed out, and become unreliable.
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:thumbsup :CLAP
 
I'm a control freak so I normally bug people so they show up just to keep me from tracking them down and torturing them any further. I don't like working with people who are motivationally challenged.
I find that some folks are just plain irresponsible. :rant
 
LisaC said:
I'm a control freak so I normally bug people so they show up just to keep me from tracking them down and torturing them any further. I don't like working with people who are motivationally challenged.
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You're just a freak period. ;D
 
Guard Dad said:
LisaC said:
I'm a control freak so I normally bug people so they show up just to keep me from tracking them down and torturing them any further. I don't like working with people who are motivationally challenged.
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You're just a freak period. ;D
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:neenerbutt
 
LisaC said:
I'm a control freak so I normally bug people so they show up just to keep me from tracking them down and torturing them any further. I don't like working with people who are motivationally challenged.
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The older I get the more I think, for me, it resembles the bold above.......I don't like working with people :HAHA :poke2
 
LisaC said:
I'm a control freak so I normally bug people so they show up just to keep me from tracking them down and torturing them any further. I don't like working with people who are motivationally challenged.
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I find that some folks are just plain irresponsible. :rant
 
There is some good advice above. However, what I have realized is that the only person's behavior I can control is my own. Whatever I do reflects on me. No matter what others' behavior, my own behavior is what matters.

And others judge us by the job we do. Doing a poor job, even for something we resent doing, reflects on us.

Do your best. You can control your own behavior, not the behavior of others. Others can be disappointing.
 
Waski_the_Squirrel said:
There is some good advice above. However, what I have realized is that the only person's behavior I can control is my own. Whatever I do reflects on me. No matter what others' behavior, my own behavior is what matters.

And others judge us by the job we do. Doing a poor job, even for something we resent doing, reflects on us.

Do your best. You can control your own behavior, not the behavior of others. Others can be disappointing.
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Truer words have never been spoken typed, Waski. You are 100% right. In this situation, I wasn't the leader but the leader didn't bother to show up with the help. There are still some good people in this world, but dang they are fewer and further between.

Thanks for letting me vent and thanks for all your wise cracks comments. Seriously, it helped just being able to gripe about it.

Y'all rock!! :hug
 
I was a Webelo leader a long time ago. I had planned an overnight campout for them at a state park once. I had enough fathers of the boys say they would be more than happy to participate on the camp out. The day everyone was to meet at the school, all these "volunteer" fathers dropped their sons off with a message to give me saying something came up and they could not go. Not one single father was now going. Because of that, we had to cancel the campout. Back then, there were no cell phones and the school of course was locked up. I couldn't leave the boys there unsupervised, so we went on a hike to my house where I had to call each boy's parents to tell them to come pick their son up. Unbelievable how some of these parents were now ticked off with me because having to come pick up their son changed their plans. Some of the parents ticked off included fathers who said they would go on the campout. I ended up resigning as the Webelo leader. I wanted nothing to do with it if the parents couldn't help out. They were just using Scouting as a babysitting service.
 
Foxmeister said:
I was a Webelo leader a long time ago. I had planned an overnight campout for them at a state park once. I had enough fathers of the boys say they would be more than happy to participate on the camp out. The day everyone was to meet at the school, all these "volunteer" fathers dropped their sons off with a message to give me saying something came up and they could not go. Not one single father was now going. Because of that, we had to cancel the campout. Back then, there were no cell phones and the school of course was locked up. I couldn't leave the boys there unsupervised, so we went on a hike to my house where I had to call each boy's parents to tell them to come pick their son up. Unbelievable how some of these parents were now ticked off with me because having to come pick up their son changed their plans. Some of the parents ticked off included fathers who said they would go on the campout. I ended up resigning as the Webelo leader. I wanted nothing to do with it if the parents couldn't help out. They were just using Scouting as a babysitting service.
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Oh, I've been there done that, can't go camping without at least two leaders. This was up a little higher on the pole at a district level. All I can say is I was surprised and extremely disappointed.
 
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