Grrrr!!

[naturegirl]

Why does someone expect you to be all nicey nice and understand when they change dates about coming to your house to stay a couple of days?? Funny thing they didn't tell me plans had changed. Now I'm the bad guy cause they couldn't stay here, we have my husband's family this weekend.

 

[Sadie612]

Maybe you should move and not tell anyone's here ya went... Workin great for me right now lol

 

[deewee]

People assume too much. My stepmother's parents are like that. They'll call and say "we're coming down and will be staying xx days"...never do they ask.

 

[naturegirl]

Yea, they do that all the time. I really didn't have a problem with them coming but they changed the date and didn't bother to tell me. If my mom hadn't said something I'd have a bunch of people here, strung out on the floor everywhere. My husband doesn't enjoy overnight company much, he would have flipped out.

His family doesn't visit often, gas is so expensive and most of them are on limited incomes so I want them to always feel welcome. But if they do come, they usually let us know if things change. They don't assume it's OK to come whenever.

Now my sister says I'm the bad guy because I wouldn't let her kids stay here. They are grown and have a sister and brother that live here, not to mention grandparents. They want to come here because I wait on them hand and foot. If I didn't my house would look like a dang tornado came through. They're slobs.

 

[deewee]

People don't like it when you have to set boundaries...but it has to be done.

 

[Far West]

Why does someone expect you to be all nicey nice and understand when they change dates about coming to your house to stay a couple of days?? Funny thing they didn't tell me plans had changed. Now I'm the bad guy cause they couldn't stay here, we have my husband's family this weekend.

Life lesson for them.

Now they will have one experience that their lack of consideration made them change plans.

You are not the bad guy. :dunno

They chose to do something ...it had consequences. :waggingfinger Not the outcome they thought. Sucks to be inconsiderate and not include your "free nights stay" in your plans. It is what it is for them.

 

[naturegirl]

Thanks y'all. My sister sent me a nasty FB message about not letting her kids stay here. I told her my husband's family mattered too and next time they decide to change plans, they better check with me. :tapfoot2

 

[Far West]

Thanks y'all. My sister sent me a nasty FB message about not letting her kids stay here. I told her my husband's family mattered too and next time they decide to change plans, they better check with me. :tapfoot2

You go girl! :goodjob

 

[mei lan]

Now my sister says I'm the bad guy because I wouldn't let her kids stay here.

OK, now we get to the root of the issue. This is whackadoodle sister, no?

 

[mei lan]

People don't like it when you have to set boundaries...but it has to be done.

I lost nearly all of my friends when I finally learned this lesson. I have now built into my life quality people whom I want to be there.

 

[naturegirl]

Now my sister says I'm the bad guy because I wouldn't let her kids stay here.

OK, now we get to the root of the issue. This is whackadoodle sister, no?

Actually no, it's not the wackadoodle..........I haven't seen, talked to or FB'd her since our blow up. This sister however has enabled her grown children to be so dependent on others they'll never make it on their own.

 

[mei lan]

Now my sister says I'm the bad guy because I wouldn't let her kids stay here.

OK, now we get to the root of the issue. This is whackadoodle sister, no?

Actually no, it's not the wackadoodle..........I haven't seen, talked to or FB'd her since our blow up. This sister however has enabled her grown children to be so dependent on others they'll never make it on their own.

OHHHH...I was wondering. OK, then, this is enabler sister. Yes, that is a very bad thing. Sad. But I'm glad you stood up to her/them.

 

[naturegirl]

Now my sister says I'm the bad guy because I wouldn't let her kids stay here.

OK, now we get to the root of the issue. This is whackadoodle sister, no?

Actually no, it's not the wackadoodle..........I haven't seen, talked to or FB'd her since our blow up. This sister however has enabled her grown children to be so dependent on others they'll never make it on their own.

OHHHH...I was wondering. OK, then, this is enabler sister. Yes, that is a very bad thing. Sad. But I'm glad you stood up to her/them.

Yea, I have a wackadoodle, an enabler and a perfectly normal sister. We run the gamut in our family. ;D

 

[deewee]

People don't like it when you have to set boundaries...but it has to be done.

I lost nearly all of my friends when I finally learned this lesson. I have now built into my life quality people whom I want to be there.

A to the men!

 

[LisaC]

I say good job! :CLAP

 

[Sadie612]

ny bellybutton itches... it is driving me crazy

 

[Madea]

Thanks y'all. My sister sent me a nasty FB message about not letting her kids stay here. I told her my husband's family mattered too and next time they decide to change plans, they better check with me. :tapfoot2

Hold your ground! :goodjob

 

[stradial]

My wife LOVES overnight or overweek or overmonth company.
The following does not apply to our kids, their spouses or the grandkids.

I however do not like overanything company.
My wife and have an understanding, more than two people for more than two nights and either they or I can stay in the local hotel.
I am ok either way.

If anyone (except those already noted) called and said we will be coming to visit on such and such days, my responce would be; "Great! We look forward to seeing you! What hotel will you be staying at?"
If they replied; "We were planning on staying with you."
My reply would be; "Sorry, we are just like the hotels. You have to ask if we have rooms available for those dates."

 

[Sadie612]

My wife LOVES overnight or overweek or overmonth company.
The following does not apply to our kids, their spouses or the grandkids.

I however do not like overanything company.
My wife and have an understanding, more than two people for more than two nights and either they or I can stay in the local hotel.
I am ok either way.

If anyone (except those already noted) called and said we will be coming to visit on such and such days, my responce would be; "Great! We look forward to seeing you! What hotel will you be staying at?"
If they replied; "We were planning on staying with you."
My reply would be; "Sorry, we are just like the hotels. You have to ask if we have rooms available for those dates."

we downsized from a 6 bedroom house for this very reason( and price) lol Nobody except my parents and my bff ( not hubbies family) know where I live. I LIKE it that way!

only a hand full of Ashlyn's friends know where we live and I like that too