Parents Didn\'t Tell 12-Year-Old He Was Dying

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Wow. What a hard decision to make. I am not sure if they did the right thing or not.


Parents Didn't Tell 12-Year-Old Adam Lewis He Was Dying -- Right Thing To Do?

The parents of a 12-year-old boy with terminal cancer believe they found the remedy for him to enjoy his short time left. They never told him he was dying.

In a decision likely to stir debate, Kevin Lewis and Kim Horner kept their son Adam's fatal condition from him as he battled a brain tumor pushing against his eye. Adam Lewis was aware he had the tumor, gamely enduring bouts of chemotherapy, radiation and steroids, his sister told several news outlets. But the boy remained unaware of his grim prognosis and hoped for recovery.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/25/parents-didnt-12-year-old_n_1701916.html
 
If he were younger, I could understand. By 12 they understand death and can live their life accordingly.
 
The only thing I wonder is if they didn't want to tell him because they didn't want to face it and talk to him about it or if they really felt like his remaining days would be better if he didn't know. :dunno
 
Things like this just break my heart.




Dang it! That's twice today I've shown my sensitive side.
 
I have a young cousin who is beating the odds right now, but he knew at an early age that he was different. he spent most of the first three years of his live in the hospital and by about 5 he knew that he may not have a lot of time. He went to Victory Junction at 7, and made himself a bucket list at the suggestion of one of the other children. He is 11 now, and has accomplished everything on that 7 year old's list that was practical. The list expands every year, and we all try to help him achieve his goals. At six he was given the choice to go to school with other children or to remain at home, and he insisted upon going to school and having as normal a childhood as possible. He has good and bad months, and has managed to be only one year behind. I was worried at the time, and still worry about him because his illness has not gone away, but now I wouldn't have had it any other way. he is as happy and normal as possible while being able to sort of plan his own time here with his family.
 
I just can't say if I agree or disagree with what they did. I can't even imagine being in their situation, let alone having to make that decision. I can't fault them for the choice they made.
 
The first thing that crossed my mind when I read the article was to wonder if they were doing it for him or doing it for themselves. In such an emotionally charged situation, I doubt even they can know the answer.

I think I would tell the child. Then he can plan his life accordingly. At 12, he isn't ready (who is), but he is old enough to handle it. What a lot of people forget is that kids know a lot more than they seem. Sometimes parents like to believe they are sheltering their kid and the result is that the kid imagines the worst.
 
i agree with the parents.. I am a parent of a cancer survivor

My daughter was 5 and when we found out she had a tumor we didn't tell her..for 1. Her age and not really understanding.

She was born a premie and was use to going to doctor after doctor so out routine wasn't all that different. When it was time to go into the hospital we told her she had something that didn't belong in her body and the doctors wanted to take it out...I was so thankful when it was not to serious and was able to get it all. She had to have 1 more surgery after that but she was a trooper.

AT 12 I might would had told them they were sick but I wouldnt tell them they were dieing ... I wouldn't want them to dwell on it
 
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