dumbestgirlintheworld
Stunt Driver
I have been on this huge life improvement thing in recent months. I started by completely removing people from my life that were toxic – and all those that surround them. It’s amazing how cathartic cleaning out Facebook can be. I also recently lost a pregnancy, which caused me to become very insightful about family.
Anyways, as a result of this introspective practice, I reconnected with my father. Back story is that he was a pretty worthless SOB that never paid child support and never kept in touch. When I was in my late teens, I reached out to him – we met – and we had a reasonably good relationship until I was 25 or so.
Circumstances and choices and life and all that caused us to fall out of touch and I probably haven’t spoken to him the better part of 6 years. The biggest stressor on me was that I have 3 siblings from his second marriage and I want to be an influence in their lives.
Well, that was a can of worms. I found out that he’s just finalized a nasty divorce, he’s not taking it well and he’s hitting the bottle pretty heavily. My oldest brother just got out of jail and my dad’s ex-wife is apparently a bit of a lunatic and doesn’t want me to be in touch with the younger two children (17 and 8). So, it would appear that I’ve just stepped into a steamy pile of drama and, of course, I can’t step out!
So, I need to get prepared for boundaries. Do you guys have any advice or stories to share about similar reconnections with family?
Anyways, as a result of this introspective practice, I reconnected with my father. Back story is that he was a pretty worthless SOB that never paid child support and never kept in touch. When I was in my late teens, I reached out to him – we met – and we had a reasonably good relationship until I was 25 or so.
Circumstances and choices and life and all that caused us to fall out of touch and I probably haven’t spoken to him the better part of 6 years. The biggest stressor on me was that I have 3 siblings from his second marriage and I want to be an influence in their lives.
Well, that was a can of worms. I found out that he’s just finalized a nasty divorce, he’s not taking it well and he’s hitting the bottle pretty heavily. My oldest brother just got out of jail and my dad’s ex-wife is apparently a bit of a lunatic and doesn’t want me to be in touch with the younger two children (17 and 8). So, it would appear that I’ve just stepped into a steamy pile of drama and, of course, I can’t step out!
So, I need to get prepared for boundaries. Do you guys have any advice or stories to share about similar reconnections with family?